Ever been in a position you feel you don’t deserve to be, for whatever reasons, or felt like you are not good enough. That’s imposter syndrome. I had never come across that word till I started creating online. I remember thinking to myself. Who do I think I am to publicly post about urban matters? That question alone stopped me from starting this blog sooner. I had to research ways of dealing with it
Being a huge fan of Austin Kleon works, I’m currently reading one of his books Steal Like an Artist. A very insightful book which I recommend. In this book he highlights that All advice is autobiographical.
“its one of my theories that when people give you advice, they’re really just talking to themselves in the past”Austin Kleon
Today’s post is me documenting a number of my findings to act as a reminder, hoping it will be of great help to you guys. Imposter syndrome doesn’t only happen to people with low self-esteem or people who lack self-confidence, in fact, it often happens to mostly high achieving people. Research says quite a good percentage of people experience this kind of feeling at some point in their lives, be it women, men, creatives, managers, students, or anybody else out there.
Imposter syndrome prevents a lot of creatives from starting up let alone evolving. Being an advocator of ‘we need more creators online’ my goal still stands. I want to inspire at least one. Figured maybe these thoughts might be holding you down from taking that first step. These are the things I have learned so far trying to figure out ways of dealing with that.
This feeling comes about when we are mostly looking inward and feeling like everyone else is judging what we are doing. The truth is most of them are just worried about themselves, they are not actively thinking about you. Always remember we choose what we believe. We determine the kind of stories that we tell ourselves about something.
Question your thoughts:
You need to ask yourself the reasons behind your thoughts, what’s making someone so great like you to think you are a fraud. Understand why you started that thing you are doing in the first place and make sure is for the right reasons. Give yourself an explanation that you are happy with. Separate feelings from facts. Have a decent review and write down genuine reasons as to why you are having those thoughts. I recommend journaling, it will help you connect the dots of your life.
Fix your Role
stepping in a stewardship role. Think of yourself as the steward of those ideas (guiding people through rather than teaching) You’ll be more imposter syndrome when you view yourself as the expert. This has really been one of my greatest hacks.
Consistency seems the solution to most things. Consistency is better especially on starting things. This will aid in fixing your identity. The virtue of the frequency of actions creates your self-image. Being consistent will also make you have pride in that particular aspect of your identity, and you’ll be more motivated to maintain everything associated with it. Keep proving it to yourself with small wins.
Don’t Compare yourself
I recently learned there’s actually no winner in this life coz different people have different attributes and likes. So, people are winning different categories, everyone is running his or her own race. If you want to compare you have to consider their entire situation, not judging them in just one lane. You really don’t know what’s happening behind the scenes. Just don’t compare.
Keep Educating Yourself
If you feel less expert on that field, educating yourself about that field will make you more knowledgeable about it. Always remember intelligence isn’t fixed, It comes through continuous learning. Do research, google everything, and ask the people who are already doing it how they manage.
Have a positive-growing mindset
that everything we do is all part of growing or its learning process be it our wins or our losses, determine ways of dealing with your failures.
Fake it till you make it
“Another way to say this? Fake it ’til you make it.Austin Kleon;Steal like an Artist
I love this phrase. There are two ways to read it:
1. Pretend to be something you’re not until you are—fake it until you’re successful. Until everybody sees you the way you want them to; or
2. Pretend to be making something until you actually make something.
I love both readings—you have to dress for the job you want, not the job you have, and you have to start doing the work you want to be doing.”
What happens when you finally get the courage to start creating online?
- Are you willing to stay patient?
- Are you willing to make sacrifices for it?
- Are you willing to fall in love with boredom?
Topic for another day. Remember to choose the best part that you believe in, the kind of judgment that other people pass on that’s their choice. And make sure you are enjoying the process of whatever thing you are doing.
I’d love to hear thoughts on this.